January 21, 2015
As I neared my due date with Zane, I was starting to get nervous about how Samara was going to react to him. It is foolish to think the transition would be seamless, and I knew that she was going to be super jealous as she is such a Mommy's girl. That, on top of the fact that she has had high fevers for the past week and Seth and I being at the hospital for two days didn't help things.
Here is how the past few days have been:
Day 0: Home from the hospital
When we pulled into the driveway, Samara and Nana were looking out the window waiting for us. I brought Zane inside and Samara immediately looked at me, pointed at him, and excitedly said, "Baby! Baby!"
Zane was sleeping so I pulled her into my lap and hugged her tight. Unfortunately, Zane started to cry so someone handed him to me. Zane's crying made Samara cry. She is a very empathetic girl (when a friend cries at daycare she hugs them), so maybe it wouldn't be so bad. I put Zane in my lap and the crap hit the fan. Samara started screaming, "Mama!" and was clawing to get into my lap. Fast forward a few hours during which she doesn't want anyone else to touch her, is always in my lap when Zane isn't, and can't even help/watch Zane being nursed.
She did calm down a little bit when the whole family was seated on the couch. I was able to prop Zane on my shoulder and have Samara sit in my lap. It was a long first day.
Day 1: Back to daycare
Samara went to daycare and Seth forgot to mention that she now has a baby brother. She was still not eating/drinking well and her lips were are cracked and bloody from being dehydrated. Daycare called, concerned about her ability to drink, and I informed them about the new baby. An hour later the director called to congratulate me and talk about what they could do to ease the transition. It was a nice, touching conversation. Seth picked her up from daycare and the evening was pretty extremely touch and go.
Day 2: Getting better
The next day I picked Samara up from daycare, and I made sure to feed Zane before I left so I could have some solo Mommy-daughter time with Samara. She was super excited to see me and apparently was pretend nursing a baby doll throughout the day. She was also drinking a lot better today. When we got home, having Nana be with Zane made the evening a lot easier to deal with. It was still tough and full of tantrums, but better.
Day 3: Making progress
Today was a turning point for Samara. She ate all her food and her lips are looking much better. She had a great time at daycare and had one or two less tantrums in the evening. She gets very curious when I am nursing Zane and got REALLY close to see what was happening.
To end this long, detailed blog post, I will leave you with a picture of a sleep-deprived mom and her two precious children.